I realize I’ve never written anything about “thin privilege” and “fat shaming.”
Here are the basics: thin privilege doesn’t exist. Fat oppression doesn’t exist. Fatphobia (Cacomorphobia, actually, since fatphobia isn’t a word) doesn’t exist.
But fat discrimination DOES exist, because people very much DO discriminate against fat people, and this creates a bit of a vicious cycle in which fat people are discriminated against, don’t feel it is worth putting in the work to lose weight, and continue being fat. I say this as someone who was considered fat for a long time (I weighed almost 200 lbs. - for an Asian that’s a hell of a lot) before I started swimming and lost 50 lbs. It’s difficult to take those first few steps to a healthier lifestyle - and a lot of people don’t realize what a healthier lifestyle IS, because people just think they should be dieting instead of pursuing a more generally balanced life and healthier habits.
The main problem with the fat acceptance movement - if you can call it that - is twofold: for one, it isn’t an equality movement. It’s filled with double standards. Note that almost all fat acceptance beneficiaries are women. There is a consistent air of sexism in the movement, because all of its slogans are one sided (“real women have curves!”) and extoll the beauty of fat women, but when they talk about fat men, it’s basically “they’re disgusting, ignore them.” Fat men suffer just as much from fat discrimination as fat women, because being fat is not an issue covered by gender or race, and it CAN lead to body dysmorphic disorders in people of all stripes (I say this as a medical professional, and as someone whose ex girlfriend cheated on him because he was fat, leading to some serious eating disorders).
The second problem is that it perpetuates this notion of “being you at all costs.” While it’s very important to love oneself and be confident in oneself, the fat acceptance movement preaches mediocrity. It says that you don’t need to consistently challenge and better yourself. It says that being lazy and accepting things as they are is okay. It says that the world around you needs to change and bend backwards for you at all costs, but if it asks you to change at all for it, even a little bit, then you are a victim. This is a poor philosophy for any person to have, let alone a movement.
I can sympathize with the people who started the fat acceptance movement because I’ve been in their shoes. I know the social, personal, and professional prejudice that can arise from being a heavy person. However, I honestly believe that this is just another challenge in life that most people can overcome, rather than sitting there and complaining how it’s society’s fault that they’re fat and not accepted.
Be the better you, but work for it.