I realize I’ve never written anything about “thin privilege” and “fat shaming.”
Here are the basics: thin privilege doesn’t exist. Fat oppression doesn’t exist. Fatphobia (Cacomorphobia, actually, since fatphobia isn’t a word) doesn’t exist.
But fat discrimination DOES exist, because people very much DO discriminate against fat people, and this creates a bit of a vicious cycle in which fat people are discriminated against, don’t feel it is worth putting in the work to lose weight, and continue being fat. I say this as someone who was considered fat for a long time (I weighed almost 200 lbs. - for an Asian that’s a hell of a lot) before I started swimming and lost 50 lbs. It’s difficult to take those first few steps to a healthier lifestyle - and a lot of people don’t realize what a healthier lifestyle IS, because people just think they should be dieting instead of pursuing a more generally balanced life and healthier habits.
The main problem with the fat acceptance movement - if you can call it that - is twofold: for one, it isn’t an equality movement. It’s filled with double standards. Note that almost all fat acceptance beneficiaries are women. There is a consistent air of sexism in the movement, because all of its slogans are one sided (“real women have curves!”) and extoll the beauty of fat women, but when they talk about fat men, it’s basically “they’re disgusting, ignore them.” Fat men suffer just as much from fat discrimination as fat women, because being fat is not an issue covered by gender or race, and it CAN lead to body dysmorphic disorders in people of all stripes (I say this as a medical professional, and as someone whose ex girlfriend cheated on him because he was fat, leading to some serious eating disorders).
The second problem is that it perpetuates this notion of “being you at all costs.” While it’s very important to love oneself and be confident in oneself, the fat acceptance movement preaches mediocrity. It says that you don’t need to consistently challenge and better yourself. It says that being lazy and accepting things as they are is okay. It says that the world around you needs to change and bend backwards for you at all costs, but if it asks you to change at all for it, even a little bit, then you are a victim. This is a poor philosophy for any person to have, let alone a movement.
I can sympathize with the people who started the fat acceptance movement because I’ve been in their shoes. I know the social, personal, and professional prejudice that can arise from being a heavy person. However, I honestly believe that this is just another challenge in life that most people can overcome, rather than sitting there and complaining how it’s society’s fault that they’re fat and not accepted.
Be the better you, but work for it.
I’d never, ever hurt a lady but I’d be happy to punch a feminist.
It’d bring me great joy.
I’m 6’2 and weigh 180lbs
ready when you are
Or if you’d like to have some more options….
and have 9 years of combined martial arts training and 3 years of being a Line Backer in football.
Just in case you are looking for variety.
what about a lady and a feminist. warning, combatives certified soldier.
So basically a bunch of people on opposite sides engaging in monkey dominance fights.
It’s cool, though, by all means, keep preaching violence against your fellow man. That’s how we’ll achieve equality. By killing each other.
It sure worked well for us in the past.
(Source: culturistjack, via enzetto)
I like how Tumblr is up in arms about a fucking abortion bill of all things.
Where were you when the drones killed Pakistani children?
Where were you when Obama followed Bush’s plan for retreat?
Where were you when it was our lives at risk?
Where were you when it habeus corpus ceased to exist?
Why were you when it was the government spying on us?
Where were you when a patriot got accused of treason?
Well Tumblr? Why the fuck are you so late to the party?
I hear a lot these days about how “nice” guys (some of whom are just genuinely kind people) shouldn’t expect any form of gratitude, no matter how small, because kindness and niceness are expected of them and to do otherwise means they are terrible people regardless of how others treat them.
I imagine this kind of push is an attempt at negative reinforcement so that people (mostly men) will be forced to be nice no matter how nasty or cruel their beneficiaries are.
Unfortunately, the EXACT OPPOSITE will occur. Eventually people will tire of having their kindness repaid by cruelty, disrespect, and humiliation. Kindness and niceness will die out, and everyone will be generally unpleasant because being a good person makes you a sucker, and nobody wants to be a sucker. That’s not a society I’d feel comfortable being a part of; that rewards bad behavior instead of good, and punishes those who make kind gestures and are good people.
This is already happening; a lot of my female friends ask me where all the “kind, good guys” are, and why there are only assholes around who behave terribly and don’t treat anyone with respect. I watched a good deal of these girls treat their boyfriends appallingly, with some stuff bordering on abuse, and it honestly amazed me the pure hypocrisy their statements represented - the exact reason why I maintain strictly distant platonic relationships with them.
So the next time someone holds a door open for you, or pays you a compliment, or acts kindly towards you, don’t react with malice. Because if you do, you’re contributing to a society that rewards bad behavior. It may not come back to hurt you personally, but it will eventually lead to someone else being hurt, and that’ll be on your head.
This has been a PSA.